A few weeks ago, I posted that my Dad was dying. The posts and email from
this NG was not only comforting, but also provided a great sense of sharing.
Dad spent the last few days in and out of "it"...mostly out.. He had no
pain and that was our main concern. I am making a box for his ashes. Here
in New Zealand, we have a sacred tree called "Totara". Looks like Padauk
but is VERY rot resistant. I scrounged some from our old house. I think
he'd like it...
Again, thank you for the posts and email...they will not be soon forgotten.
Cheers
John
--
Rose Cottage Woodworks
www.rosecottageinn.co.nz/woodworks
On Wed, 9 Jun 2004 14:46:59 +1200, "John Gilham/Patsy Scott"
<[email protected]> wrote:
>A few weeks ago, I posted that my Dad was dying. The posts and email from
>this NG was not only comforting, but also provided a great sense of sharing.
>Dad spent the last few days in and out of "it"...mostly out.. He had no
>pain and that was our main concern. I am making a box for his ashes. Here
>in New Zealand, we have a sacred tree called "Totara". Looks like Padauk
>but is VERY rot resistant. I scrounged some from our old house. I think
>he'd like it...
>
>Again, thank you for the posts and email...they will not be soon forgotten.
>
>Cheers
>John
My condolences, John. Losing a parent is one of the hardest things we
have to do in life.
Tim Douglass
http://www.DouglassClan.com
>Subject: OT Dad passed away
>From: "John Gilham/Patsy Scott" [email protected]
>Date: 6/8/04 10:46 PM Eastern Daylight Time
>Message-id: <[email protected]>
>
>A few weeks ago, I posted that my Dad was dying. The posts and email from
>this NG was not only comforting, but also provided a great sense of sharing.
>Dad spent the last few days in and out of "it"...mostly out.. He had no
>pain and that was our main concern. I am making a box for his ashes. Here
>in New Zealand, we have a sacred tree called "Totara". Looks like Padauk
>but is VERY rot resistant. I scrounged some from our old house. I think
>he'd like it...
Sorry to hear about that. My condolences to you and your family.
>
>Again, thank you for the posts and email...they will not be soon forgotten.
>
>Cheers
>John
>
>--
>Rose Cottage Woodworks
>www.rosecottageinn.co.nz/woodworks
>
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I love to avoid my neighbors.
"John Gilham/Patsy Scott" <[email protected]> wrote in message
news:[email protected]...
> A few weeks ago, I posted that my Dad was dying. The posts and email from
> this NG was not only comforting, but also provided a great sense of
sharing.
> Dad spent the last few days in and out of "it"...mostly out.. He had no
> pain and that was our main concern. I am making a box for his ashes.
Here
> in New Zealand, we have a sacred tree called "Totara". Looks like Padauk
> but is VERY rot resistant. I scrounged some from our old house. I think
> he'd like it...
>
> Again, thank you for the posts and email...they will not be soon
forgotten.
>
> Cheers
> John
>
I didn't see your original post, John. Condolences to you and your family.
I use some of my late father's tools daily. He died in 1999, and he had
inherited tools from his father, grandfather, and brother. Every time I
pick one up, I feel a sort of 'responsibility' not to muck up the joint, or
the cut, or whatever. I still do, of course, but then Dad did too.
--
Conehead
Tasmania
John Gilham/Patsy Scott wrote:
> A few weeks ago, I posted that my Dad was dying. The posts and email from
> this NG was not only comforting, but also provided a great sense of sharing.
> Dad spent the last few days in and out of "it"...mostly out.. He had no
> pain and that was our main concern. I am making a box for his ashes. Here
> in New Zealand, we have a sacred tree called "Totara". Looks like Padauk
> but is VERY rot resistant. I scrounged some from our old house. I think
> he'd like it...
>
> Again, thank you for the posts and email...they will not be soon forgotten.
I probably wasn't one who reponded earlier but I will now. I'm very sorry for
your loss. My father is getting on up there in years and I know he isn't going
to last forever; yet he has always been there for me. I can't imagine what it
must feel like to realize he's no longer there. You have my complete sympathy.
I know from a near death experience that the actual passing from life to death
is a painless, actually quite comfortable, thing. I hope that gives you some
comfort.
--
Mortimer Schnerd, RN
[email protected]
http://www.mortimerschnerd.com
I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my father in 1987, and still think of him
most days. I'm sure you'll have many good memories.
My father wasn't a woodworker as such, but an all-around DIY handyman "Mr.
Fixit" type. He had been a car mechanic for a large part of his working
life, so had accumulated quite a collection of both automotive & "happy
homeowner" tools. I inherited them, and ended up with MANY duplicates, as
I had already acquired my own collection of such tools. When I began to
thin out my collection of tools, I was pleased that, when given a choice, my
sons usually preferred to take the tools that had been used by my father,
rather than my newer ones!
> "John Gilham/Patsy Scott" <[email protected]> wrote in message
> news:[email protected]...
> > A few weeks ago, I posted that my Dad was dying. The posts and email
from
> > this NG was not only comforting, but also provided a great sense of
> sharing.
> > Dad spent the last few days in and out of "it"...mostly out.. He had no
> > pain and that was our main concern. I am making a box for his ashes.
> Here
> > in New Zealand, we have a sacred tree called "Totara". Looks like
Padauk
> > but is VERY rot resistant. I scrounged some from our old house. I
think
> > he'd like it...
> >
> > Again, thank you for the posts and email...they will not be soon
> forgotten.
> >
> > Cheers
> > John
In article <[email protected]>,
[email protected] says...
> I am making a box for his ashes. Here
> in New Zealand, we have a sacred tree called "Totara". Looks like Padauk
> but is VERY rot resistant. I scrounged some from our old house. I think
> he'd like it...
>
Condolences to you and your family, John. Sounds like your dad left a
great legacy in you.
My dad passed in 1987, just a few months after his first grandson was
born, and there's not a day doesn't go by that I don't think of him,
especially when I'm in the shop. He never got to know his grandson as a
young man, but I think he'd be proud to see his tools being used by the
third generation.
/Vic
I lost my dad about 4 years ago. The pain will get easier to bear with time.
Prayer and faith helped me a lot. I still want to call him from time to time
and catch myself dialing the phone. My prayers are with you and I hope
healing comes quickly for you.
--
Dennis W. Ewing Sr
210/653-1276
[email protected]
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"John Gilham/Patsy Scott" <[email protected]> wrote in message
news:[email protected]...
> A few weeks ago, I posted that my Dad was dying. The posts and email from
> this NG was not only comforting, but also provided a great sense of
sharing.
> Dad spent the last few days in and out of "it"...mostly out.. He had no
> pain and that was our main concern. I am making a box for his ashes.
Here
> in New Zealand, we have a sacred tree called "Totara". Looks like Padauk
> but is VERY rot resistant. I scrounged some from our old house. I think
> he'd like it...
>
> Again, thank you for the posts and email...they will not be soon
forgotten.
>
> Cheers
> John
>
> --
> Rose Cottage Woodworks
> www.rosecottageinn.co.nz/woodworks
>
>
John Gilham/Patsy Scott wrote:
> A few weeks ago, I posted that my Dad was dying. The posts and email from
> this NG was not only comforting, but also provided a great sense of
> sharing.
> Dad spent the last few days in and out of "it"...mostly out.. He had no
> pain and that was our main concern. I am making a box for his ashes.
> Here
> in New Zealand, we have a sacred tree called "Totara". Looks like Padauk
> but is VERY rot resistant. I scrounged some from our old house. I think
> he'd like it...
>
> Again, thank you for the posts and email...they will not be soon
> forgotten.
>
> Cheers
> John
>
John & Patsy,
My condolences to you and your family.
When my father passed away, we placed in his casket with him several items.
Don't know if that is appropriate for you in a box of your Dad's ashes, but
maybe. Perhaps you could get fancy and include a separate drawer, or attach
items to the outside. I'm sure you can come up with small items that have
meaning for your Dad. We included his favorite hammer and tape measure and
most importantly ;^) a bottle of beer. That tape measure was always about
his belt while he was alive, and well worn because of it. It was fitting
for us that he has these items with him forever. Of course there are many
of his tools that remain with us. Everytime I use one of his tools, I
think of him.
Steve
On Wed, 09 Jun 2004 14:46:59 +1200, John Gilham/Patsy Scott wrote:
> A few weeks ago, I posted that my Dad was dying. The posts and email from
> this NG was not only comforting, but also provided a great sense of
> sharing. Dad spent the last few days in and out of "it"...mostly out.. He
> had no pain and that was our main concern. I am making a box for his
> ashes. Here in New Zealand, we have a sacred tree called "Totara". Looks
> like Padauk but is VERY rot resistant. I scrounged some from our old
> house. I think he'd like it...
>
> Again, thank you for the posts and email...they will not be soon
> forgotten.
Dad passed away on Sept 2, 2000. He's not really gone as I think about
him every day and can hear one of his many (usually crusty) sayings when
the proper circumstance presents itself.
-Doug
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"A government that robs Peter to pay Paul can always
depend on the support of Paul." - George Bernard Shaw